No Matter What
Thursday, November 13, 2014
Healed Wounds and Remaining Scars
Anyone who knows me well, knows that all I ever truly wanted out of life was to be a mom. I've loved children all my life, and the only thing that ever mattered to me was to have kids of my own to love and raise. And for the past few years, the possibility of that never becoming a reality has been a very bitter pill to swallow. And one that I refused to even try to accept for the longest time. But God has shown me recently that the truth is that He did give me what I wanted. He gave me Kelsey. He allowed me to be a mother. No, I don't get to raise Kelsey, but I did get to love him. I did get to hold him and kiss him. And nothing can ever take that away from me. And while I still miss him everyday, and I would give anything to hold him again, I finally have a peace about everything. I can finally just be thankful for and cherish the time that I got to carry Kelsey and love him. The last two and a half years have been the most difficult of my life, and there have been some really dark days. To be completely honest, only my mom probably knows just how dark some of those days got, and sometimes I'm not sure that even she had a complete idea. There were some really desperate times, and I am just so thankful that God kept holding on to me and didn't let me go. He is so merciful it's overwhelming! I know I am so undeserving of His grace and love. Yet He loves me anyway.
I really have no clue what my future holds as far as having other children. I would still love to have another child. It's even still physically possible, as far as I know. We know that I can get pregnant, and we know that I can carry a baby. But God's been working on me, and for the first time in my life, I have a peace about it all. I understand that maybe God has other plans for me that I just can't see yet. I never in a million years thought I would ever be able to even think those thoughts, much less speak them out loud or write them down. But He has been gracious and merciful to me and given me His "peace that passes all understanding". And it definitely does pass it all, because I cannot explain it. I just know that over the past few weeks, I've dealt with a precious child in my class who, for most of his short little life, has had to live in a nightmare. I've dealt with a teenage girl who has lived in circumstances most of us couldn't imagine dealing with as adults, much less as kids. And I've spent a lot of time holding the absolute most precious baby boy who belongs to a sweet friend of mine. And through each of these beautiful little lives, God has shown me that, regardless of what I thought my plans were, He has a bigger plan for me than I could have ever imagined. And while I don't know what His ultimate plan is, I know that whether I am ever able to bring home a child of my own or not, there will always be more out there who need someone to love them. I was showing a friend of mine some pictures the other day of one of my church babies, and he said something about me having a lot of kids. And he's right...I do have a lot of kids. I have my school babies, my church babies, and my angel babies. So while I am not giving up the hope of having a child of my own to raise, I am honestly able to say for the first time in my life, that I am ok with the possibility that that might not happen. I know to many of you, that will sound like crazy talk coming from me, but it's the truth. I just cannot explain how God has lifted that burden from me over the past few weeks and helped me to truly be at peace with everything that has happened.
My sweet friend sang a song this past Sunday called "Heal the Wound". It was actually the first song I sang as a special at church, and I sang it after I had my miscarriage. It talks about wanting God to heal our wounds but leave the scars behind as a reminder of how merciful He is and how far He has brought us. I can finally say that God has healed the deepest wound of my heart. I am at peace over Kelsey. And I am thankful for my scars, both physically and emotionally. I am thankful that he left me the reminders of what I've been through and where I've been. And I pray that they remain so that I never forget that I didn't make it to this point on my own. He has been there the whole time, even when I was unfaithful, unbelieving. He stayed with me and carried me through it all. I pray that anyone reading this will receive this message and know that Jesus loves you. Even when you try to run. Even when you don't listen. He loves you and wants to be there for you. All you have to do is trust Him. Let Him carry you through your burdens. Just let go and let God.
I love all of you and truly appreciate all the love and support you have all sent my way over the past few years. I am grateful that God put so many wonderful people in my life to see me through the tough times. I am truly blessed.
Sunday, July 27, 2014
So Long, Blue Toes!
Saturday, March 15, 2014
Still Standing
I love you all and thank you for all the thoughts and prayers that have been sent our way, especially over the past couple of days. They have been tough. We visited Kelsey's grave today to take new flowers and release two balloons since it is his second birthday in Heaven. Lord knows we miss him so bad. Parents, kiss your children and never take them for granted. There are so many who would give anything for just another minute with their babies. Until next time...
Monday, August 12, 2013
Answers and Prayers
On another note, I would like to ask for your continued prayers. I have been experiencing some health issues. Nothing that I will go into details about today. But I really would appreciate your prayers. They have gotten us through this far, and I know that we will continue to receive strength from them now. Also, I have an even more pressing prayer request. A dear friend of mine lost her precious grandson this weekend. Her daughter-in-law was five months pregnant. Please pray for this precious family as they say goodbye to a sweet little angel. Losing a child, I believe, is the hardest thing a person could ever have to go through. They are going to need many, many prayers to get through this week and the coming months and even years. I pray that God will give them the love and support that I received during our trial. Without His strength and love, I would not be standing today. I am so thankful that He chose to love someone such as me who never deserved His love to begin with.
Thank you for all of your love and support that you all have shown us over the past year and a half. You will never know how much your prayers, love, and generous acts of kindness mean to me. I will forever be grateful for those who have stood beside us, held us as we cried, prayed for and with us, and held us up when we didn't have the strength to stand on our own. You are such a blessing. Until next time...(and maybe not so long this time :)) Love and Prayers!
Thursday, March 14, 2013
Kelsey's First Birthday in Heaven
Saturday, March 2, 2013
A New Journey
I can't promise it won't be a while before I post again. I never know when the mood/message will strike. So until then, please pray for us. Thank you all for being there for us. We love you!
Thursday, November 1, 2012
Emotional rantings of a tired mother of an angel baby
It's been so long since I've posted that I don't even know where to start. To be honest, I just haven't had a lot to say or been in the mood. And I know that sounds terrible, but it's the truth. Even now, words are not easily found. But I know some of you have been wondering and worrying, so I decided I'd better at least write something. So here goes... Each passing month seems to be harder to bear, especially with the holidays coming up so fast. It just doesn't seem right that the rest of the world can just keep going when all I want to do is go back and hold Kelsey. I see so many precious babies who have parents who couldn't care less about them and I just want to scream! I know God has a plan for me, but sometimes it's really hard to even imagine what that might be. My heart is just completely broken. And for those of you who think I should just move on already, until you've been there, and I pray you NEVER will, you have no idea. I know the "you can try agains" and the "you're still youngs" mean well. But it doesn't help. It feels like Kelsey is being dismissed, even though I know that isn't the intention. And I know only people who have been there understand. I miss my son so much, and I love to talk about him. I know that makes a lot of people uncomfortable, but I'm sorry. Kelsey is and always will be a part of me and who I am. I love to share stories of our time with him. And when people ask me questions about him, it makes me feel good because it validates his life and the fact that he was here, if only for a little while. With that being said, I wasn't planning to rant. I guess I just needed to get some things off my chest. And just for the record, none of my rantings were directed at anyone in particular...just the public in general. I understand that pregnancy and infant loss is a taboo subject. In sharing my story/rantings, I hope to help people understand more so that they can better handle themselves in the future.
On another note, I would like to ask for your continued prayers. I went in for my yearly checkup a couple of weeks ago. While all my tests were fine (other than blood pressure because sitting in that place for an hour sent me into a anxiety attack by the time I got into my truck), there is some issues we've dealt with in the past that have returned and could hinder us in getting pregnant again, especially any time soon should we decide to. And like I said earlier, I know God has a plan for us. I just have to trust in His will and not mine, which is so much easier said than done.
One more thing and then I'm done. I would like to ask you to pray for a friend of mine and her precious little girl, Ally. I don't think she would mind me sharing this with you because the more people we have praying for Ally, the better. Ally was born with many birth defects including problems with her kidneys, lungs, bowels, and other areas. She is currently on dialysis and has developed an infection that doctors cannot figure out. They may have to move her to another hospital and do another type of dialysis. Please pray for healing for this precious child of God and for comfort and rest for her family. I know they would be very appreciative of any prayers sent their way.
Until next time...